People often
don’t get married because they are terrified of family
and friendship conflicts.
Dysfunctional families,
complicated relatives, mothers, fathers, great aunts,
neighbours, pet dogs.
Where would you end and
where would you start?
The whole scenario of a
harmonious and peaceful wedding becomes an horrendous
malay of who, why, when, where and who’s coming and
who’s not.
If I can give
a simple suggestion from my own life and being
personally involved in so many hatching, matching and
dispatching there is a great rule of thumb.
If you spend your life
trying to please other people, you won’t please them and
you won’t please yourselves either.
Many of these caring people
have had their great day.
For heaven’s sakes let you
have your day the way you chose.
The time starts now to say
thank you very much for your idea, thanks but no thanks.
If you have a
vision of how you want to see yourself on the great day,
focus on this and hopefully many other people will
follow suit and be happy for you.
The basic stalemates when
preparing a wedding ceremony or any other ceremony for
that matter are family, family, family and religion,
religion, religion.
When I
interview the couples and meet with them as many times
as is needed to prepare their unique ceremony it is
paramount to me that I meet family members, children
from both parties and at the rehearsal I invite everyone
along, including the family dog if he/she is apart of
the ceremony.
Let me tell you about a dog
without its bone at a ceremony.
About 18mths
ago I performed a very personal wedding at Corryong out
on a farm.
All went extremely well
except they forgot to tell me that the little fluffy dog
was walking down the aisle.
The dog had obviously been
fluffed up for the day and had a fabulous set of big
pearls around her neck and an exquisite pink bow beside
the woofa’s right ear which was only held by one hair –
what a fabulous adornment for the wedding.
As the bridal party walked
in, down came the dog, cocked its leg on one of the
pews, got stage fright and refused to budge and
discretely had to be carried out by the father of the
bride.
Sorry I deviated from the topic but
thought it was quite funny and hoped you enjoyed the
tale/tail.
Did you Know????
As recently
as 1971 91% of Victorians married in churches, but
between 1971 and 2005 the number of weddings celebrated
in Anglican churches has declined from 7230 to 1682.
Catholic weddings have
declined from 9784 to 4075 and those from other
Christian denominations from 12,370 to 4127.
Regards
Annie.
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