Let’s talk about creating the unique ceremony.
It is so important to remember that the Celebrant
or the priest is not actually the person who marries
you. It is
important for the couple to take responsibility that
they are marrying one another.
As a Celebrant myself I am privileged and
honoured to be an official witness but it is of vital
importance that couples have the sort of marriage where
they want, when they want and what they want.
Usually the first consultation with a couple, they
always say we want something simple and not too long.
And I clearly say to them “I hear you saying that
you want what’s relevant to you both as individuals” and
if the couple have humour I usually whip in “ok so you
don’t want all your guests vomiting in the garden with
all that mushy stuff” and “um its not really you”.
You know people do get upset if the ceremony is
either too short or too long and as I say in my card it
is important to be personal innovative professional and
unique in how you support your couples.
It is important that the material is appropriate as
through the cycle of life there are so many rights of
passage which surround important occasions of ceremony
and celebration.
The following is a basic structure of how I support
couples in planning their unique ceremony:
-
Introduction/Welcoming
-
Monitum from the Marriage Act
-
Reading (Optional)
-
Giving away:- (Optional)
-
Asking:- The question of intent.
-
Exchanging of Vows
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The Ring Ceremony
-
Reading:- (Again Optional)
-
Declaration of Marriage
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Signing of the Certificates and Presentation or
Bride & Groom
A suggested verse for the not so mushy simple but nice
couple
Marriage is Love
If two are caring as they are sharing
life’s hopes and
fears.
If the music of laughter outweighs
sadness and tears.
Marriage is togetherness.
If both derive pleasure from the mere
presence of each other,
yet when parted
no jealousies
restrict, worry
or smother.
Marriage is freedom.
If achievements mean more when they benefit two
and consideration is shown with
each point of
view.
Marriage is respect.
And if togetherness, freedom and respect
are combined with a joy
that words can never fully define,
Then marriage is love.
by Gloria Matthew
This weeks ZIP or ZAP
Have your cake reflect your wedding theme or personal
interests.
Til next time,
Annie.
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