When two people decide they are going to marry, numerous
feelings are evoked.
They first experience happiness and a sense of
possibility, excitement, perhaps feelings of glowing
warmth and fulfilment.
Then as talk of the ceremony comes around that
initial joyous spirit is likely to be replaced by
questions and complications as a deluge of details beg
for attention.
Planning a wedding is a complex and demanding
process.
Preparing for a wedding may bring up issues that can, in
many ways, be a test for the marriage.
It is helpful to think about the difference
between a marriage and a wedding.
** Marriage
indicates the pledge of loyalty and faithfulness that
two
people
make to each other.
** Wedding
more commonly refers to the ceremony that publicly
represents
this promise.
Whether or not one fully understands the symbolism of
marriage, the wedding will enact many of the elements of
this symbolism as well as the elements of the passage
represented.
If the ritual is done well, the transformation
that results in each person and in the relationship will
be eloquently expressed and will bring about an enduring
difference.
A wedding ceremony is a ritual.
Ritual is “a series of symbolic acts focused
toward fulfilling a particular intention”.
For most people, the intention expressed in a
wedding is to make public and formalise the love and
commitment in the relationship.
This is what the part that occurs between the
processional and the recessional – the ceremony itself
is about.
However, if you look at a ritual as having four separate
steps – the first is planning, next comes making
preparations, then the manifestation or
ceremony itself, and finally the completion or
incorporation of what has taken place – you can
begin to see how the creation of a wedding can become an
experience of unfathomed dimensions.
The organization of all these details can be handled by
the engaged couple, their family, the celebrant, or a
wedding consultant or a combination of any of these
people.
They can all assist with the planning and preparation
stages.
These can include finding an appropriate site, a printer
for the invitations, a florist, caterer, a band, a
jeweller, a celebrant and whatever else might be
required.
** The
ceremony and ritual organization is the job of the
Celebrant.
** The
choice of celebrant becomes a vital instrument in the
creation
of a memorable wedding.
Yes, I'll Marry You, My Dear.
By Pam Ayres
Yes, I'll marry you, my dear, and here's the reason why;
So I can push you out of bed when the baby starts to
cry,
And if we hear a knocking and it's creepy and it's late,
I hand you the torch you see, and you investigate.
Yes, I'll marry you, my dear, you may not apprehend it,
But when the tumble drier goes, it's you that has to
mend it,
You have to face the neighbour should our Labrador
attack him,
And if a drunkard fondles me, it you that has to whack
him.
Yes, I'll marry you, my dear, you're virile and you're
lean,
My house is like a pigsty, so you can keep it clean.
That little sexy dinner which you served by candlelight,
As I just do hot-dogs, you can cook it every night!
It's you who has to work the drill and put up curtain
track,
And when I've got the PMT, it's you who gets the flack,
I do see great advantages, but none of them for you,
And before you see the light, I do, I do, I do!
This Newsletter's ZIP or ZAP
Have your toasting glasses personalised with a photo or
inspirational saying printed on/attached to the glass.
Annie.
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