One of the first questions I ask couples who are
“Checking me out” to see if I’ll do the job properly –
as in marry them, is what do they really want for their
wedding ceremony and what are the memories they would
like to keep from their special day?
Most people’s experience of wedding ceremonies is gained
attending other weddings.
If they’re not impressed their desire is just get
their’s over and done with to avoid extending the
embarrassment.
A couple of clients said they didn’t want their
wedding to be like a funeral.
Wow, what does that say about the wedding
ceremonies they’ve seen?
Once I start describing how wonderful, relaxed and
enjoyable a wedding can be, clients start to see the
possibilities.
My challenge and responsibility is to avoid
giving clients the wedding they say they want (based on
their fears and misconceptions) and instead to educate
them on the possibilities and choices.
Once they have a greater realisation of how
special, joyful and meaningful their celebrations can be
they start to make informed choices and help to develop
a ceremony in which they take great pride.
However let’s distinguish between the features of a
ceremony and the benefits.
The features are the things everybody sees - the
warming of the rings, the flower ceremonies, wine
ceremonies, handfasting and so on. The benefits are the
warm, fuzzy feelings of pleasure and lasting enjoyment
that follows after the ceremony is over.
Some celebrants have a lot to say over the fees
we charge.
Their opinions vary from it’s too much to its too little
However; the quality of the ceremony is
remembered long after the cost is forgotten.
The price each of us charge is of little
importance in the long run.
The key things for our clients are quality, value and
service. If
we offer them a ceremony to exceed their expectations,
provide outstanding client service and ensure the value
they receive is well in excess of anything they could
have imagined, then we are doing our job the way we
should.
If we believe what many say – then they want their
ceremony to be short and simple – no readings – just get
it over with as quickly as possible.
Of course they’re not all like this.
Some have a better idea to what would suit them.
Some say – perhaps a couple of readings – and
something special (whatever that may be).
I suggest they’re saying they want our help,
advice, input and ideas.
To all prospective brides’n’grooms think about what you
want in your ceremony communicate, freely with your
celebrant for if you don’t tell them, they really can’t
create for your individual needs.
So
Ask! Ask! Ask!.
Most celebrants want to help you create what you
want for your ceremony.
Tips for a Great Relationship
Spend time together.
Love is time, the time you invest in each other.
Make your relationship a priority.
Regards,
Annie
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